Dear Abby: I have a disabling disorder — how do I tell my friends?
A reader with polyneuropathy, multiple back surgeries and arthritis in every joint struggles to explain her limitations to friends who dismiss her because her pain isn’t visible.
DEAR ABBY: I have a neurological disorder and can no longer keep up with my friends (who used to be my friends). I don’t explain the problems I have and why I can’t do the things I used to do unless they ask. I still drive, but I have trouble walking. I have a wonderful husband who helps me all the time. I’m lucky I can do what I do, but I am very limited.
I don’t know how to explain it to people who look at me like I’m making it up. Abby, I have polyneuropathy and have had seven back surgeries. I have arthritis in all my joints. I live in constant pain, but it doesn’t “look” like I do.