Dear Abby: I married young and people say I’ve ‘missed out’
A woman who married at 20 to a 32-year-old husband says unsolicited comments that she “missed out” on her 20s and that their age gap is “disturbing” are now weighing on her.
DEAR ABBY: I married when I was 20 and my husband was 32. I grew up with a conservative view of marriage, so in a sense, I believed marrying early would grant me the most freedom as a woman. We have been married for five years and have a child.
Over the years, many people have offered unsolicited advice about how I “missed out on my 20s,” or how our age gap is “disturbing.” I have done my best to brush off these comments, but as I’ve grown and my views about life have evolved, these negative sentiments are becoming constant background voices in my head.