Dear Abby: My parents insist on telling my estranged brother when I’m in town
My plan is to tell them that if they can’t respect my wishes, I simply won’t see them.
DEAR ABBY: I am in my late 30s. I live halfway across the country from my parents and don’t have the best relationship with them. I also have a brother four years younger from whom I have been estranged for 20 years. He lives in the same city as my parents.
My problem is, if I visit, my parents (especially my mom) will tell my brother and invite him over. I don’t like my brother and don’t want to see him. I will not reconcile with him because he did some horrible things to me 20 years ago for which I can never forgive him.