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Wife frustrated having to 'pump' husband for updates about his family

How can I help him see I’m a part of his family now, just as he is a part of mine?

Published May 22, 2026, 6:06 AM EDT | LehighValleyLive

DEAR ABBY: My husband, “Evan,” and I have been together five years and were married 2-1/2 years ago. We’re both in our early 40s and have children from previous relationships.

What I’ve noticed is that anytime there is something going on in his family, I constantly have to ask him for updates. He sometimes treats me like an outsider instead of a part of his family. An example: His 19-year-old son (my stepson) has alcohol and depression issues. If Evan gets updates, he’ll share a snippet or not even tell me at all -- or he’ll comment that he’s worried about “his son” and then just shut down. He doesn’t want to discuss it, even though I’m worried, too.